Ask your friend to keep an eye out for overused phrases.” Honey adds: “It's a good idea to emphasise your activities as people tend to be attractive to those who convey health and vitality.” It’s true – two of the most commonly used words in profiles on Ok Cupid are yoga and (slightly more intimidatingly) surfing.

But running, skiing, tennis, dancing and cycling were also rated highly.

So, we can see that women are much more selective than men when it comes to responding to messages.

7 sample online dating messages-90

There are thousands of people on these sites, and there is going to be someone similar to you who has better pictures. If you want to meet good people, you need to have good pictures. She needs to see you close up (a headshot), and from a little distance (a full length shot).

Your dark, artsy photos are great as a supplement, but she needs to see what you look like in the light, without a hat, and without sunglasses.

Do you fit all, or most, of what she’s looking for? I often receive messages from men who seem to overlook the preferences I’ve stated in my profile. This means you have to read her profile, and pay attention to what you read. Don’t hover over your sent mail folder to see if she’s read your message.

“Funny, I didn’t think my age would be an issue.” Really? Don’t offer to help her fix her bike, when the story in her profile is about her success in fixing her bike. The questions you ask should be interesting to you, and personal enough to connect to her. Remember that you don’t know this person at all, and you shouldn’t have any expectations of when she should reply.

We can't guarantee a response, per se, but we can say how confident we are that these average bachelors and bachelorettes will receive at least one response given the number of messages they send.

We know, from the chart above, that a woman who sends a message to a man her own age has a 17.5% likelihood of receiving a response to that message.

We know that a man who sends a message to a woman his own age has a 4% likelihood of receiving a response to that message.

Extrapolating from there, here's how confident men and women can be that they will receive a response given the number of messages they send Fascinating.

Since women are understandably disinclined to respond to all the messages, men must send out more in order to guarantee any response. Everyone is acting in their own self interest, inadvertently leading to further imbalances in the system.