Most women report a loss of security in their relationship and believe that they have been living a lie.

They feel that the future of the marriage is at risk, many want to leave the marriage. The beginning of most sexual addictions are formed long before adulthood, so the addictions are carried into marriage.

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I found him in his usual spot, his basement office.

The Internet just happens to provide many of the things sex addicts seek, all in one place: isolation, secrecy, fantasy material, endless variety, around-the-clock availability, instant accessibility and a rapid means of returning, low or no cost.

The internet fills a need for "more, easier and better." For the cybersex addict, increasing amounts of time are spent "surfing," downloading, creating files, masturbating, reading information posted on sexual bulletin boards, exchanging sexual information live with others in sexual chat rooms or via computer cameras, or directing their own live sex shows on interactive sites--in short, looking for what's new, what's better than last time.

The Internet has become the newest, most rapidly growing form of sexual acting out for many sex addicts.

Sexual addiction, like most other additions, is a way of running away from life, even for a moment. But since it does not actually solve any problems or ease emotional pain the original problems are still there and now the addiction has created even more problems.

If you are in relationship with someone you think is sexually addicted, your efforts to help may be actually adding to the problem.

To "please and keep her man" the co-addict will often attempt to become indispensable to the addict.

Not surprisingly, with the need to be indispensable, the co-addict's most constant emotional state is one of fear.

The most difficult marital problems today are Internet pornography adultery, and sexual fantasy.

Most women feel that pornography is akin to adultery.

Thus, internet sex has been referred to as the "crack cocaine" of sex addiction.