Rough sex doesn’t have to be a means to abuse each other or feel powerful.

It can be used as a psychological release, just as long as you practice it in a controlled environment and swap dominant and submissive sides often, unless both of you prefer specific roles all the time.

Both of you know each other’s limitations and capabilities, and it’s easy to know where to draw the line.

[Read: 13 untold sex secrets you really need to know] The psychological thrill of rough sex One of the sexier things about rough sex is how contagious it is in bed.

When you have rough sex with your girl, it shows off your confidence and your manly, wild side which can turn her on and rekindle the raw sexual desire in her. Well, that’s something you need to talk to her about.

[Read: How to satisfy a woman in bed and make sex more exciting for her] Rough sex for the calm lover If you’re someone who isn’t used to the idea of hurting a lover while making love *in a controlled environment*, the idea of rough sex may sound gross and appalling, even frightening.

And when you feel comfortable enough, run your nails against your partner’s back, deeper with each confident thrust of your pelvis.

And somewhere along the way, you’ll start to feel the wild passion engulf you.

Start slow by kissing more aggressively and using your teeth, but as you get more into the act, apply more pressure on your partner, either by using your hands or your pelvis.

Run your hands through your lover’s hair and grip it firmly with your fingers while whispering something dirty or biting your lover’s neck.

But rough sex isn’t for everyone and every stage of a relationship.