The first step to overcoming your frustration with online dating is to adjust your mindset and expectations accordingly.

Online dating takes a different attitude and skill-set than, say, making cold approaches at a bar or flirting with someone you met at a house party.

However, there has been a recent case in Switzerland (November 2012), where a very similar crime occurred and the local police worked with the police in Ivory Coast/Côte d’Ivoire where they set the scammers up by paying money into the account details and following the trail.

IF they do post this video (if it really exists, as some just simply say a video exists and others do not post if their victim simply ignores them or refuses to pay), it may be highly embarrassing, but if you pay, then they will come back for more and more.

Foolishly I replied to this 'youtube' email indicating that I was being blackmailed and named the account that was doing it to me.

After replying I realized that the address was a fake youtube address and also the letter was fake as well. Then today I open my email to find another fake email this time from 'interpol' threatening that I have 48 hrs to reply or that I can go to jail.

I would advise you not to confront this person (online or otherwise), definately not pay the money demanded and to end all contact with them immediately.

Filters should be placed on your email account(s) to block any emails sent by them.

Further to my answer, please read the link below to reassure yourself this is not an isolated incident and the further lengths these people will go to: I say, do not be fooled into paying any money to these scammers. Here is what happened.1) I took your advice plus other advice which I found on the net and did not make any attempt to pay them.2) I blocked them from my contact lists (Facebook I did whilst still chatting with them) and then deleted my Windows live Messenger account3) I deactivated my Facebook page and posted a message to my friends indicating that someone what hacked my account and was sending me spam and that I would be away for some time.

Any message they receive from me is suspicious and should be deleted immediately4) I created several Google alerts to alert me if anything with my name was posted5) I checked youtube to see if anything was posted on me and also checked their privacy Policy etc6) Finally I informed a close friend of mine and asked him to keep an eye out on things and inform me if he spots anything. But then I got an email supposedly from youtube warning me of their privacy violation and that I could be fined 15K euro.

Even for people like me who the whole dance and the chase and the thrill of the new, there will be points when you really just want to take a step back from it for a while and catch your breath and let your ego recover from the beatings that tend to come with it. But just as when you’re trying to meet your future snugglebunny the old-fashioned way, it’s important to understand the potential headaches that come with those marathon OKCupid sessions.

Many of the things that drive people away from online dating can be headed off at the pass with some preparation.

Regards Anthony Hi Anthony Unfortunately this is a particular nasty scam and has had devastating consequences for the party on the receiving end (indeed there has been reports of victims committing suicide as a result).