The complexity of the cybersex phenomenon and the varied ethical issues anchored on it call for a rethinking of existing ethical frameworks and a formulation of a new one with concrete sexual norms for effective moral evaluation. The first section deals with cybersex as a contemporary human phenomenon, its ins and outs, its workings, language, and usage.

The second section deals with the psychological analysis of cybersex, taking into account the positive and negative arguments of cybersexual encounters, explorations, and expressions.

Questions like these may crop up in their mind: What right has he to talk about this matter? I had to reckon with two things in preparing for this ethical discourse on cybersex: first, the actual engagement in online sex as a challenge I had to face to be able to gain insights from concrete experience, and second, the search for the best framework to ethically evaluate this new sexual phenomenon.

Though written some years ago, the insights there are still valid.

The following is a summary of one of the cybersex stories featured in that series.1This is the story of Ted, 27 years old and single, who works as an information technology professional in Makati.

I had to assume pseudonyms and officially log myself in to enter sexual chat rooms and hunt for possible sexual chat mates.

I did discover many surprising things which eventually helped me in my writing.

However, when he enters the cyberworld, he becomes a changed person, one who can turn on women to their wild sexual dreams. )’ Then ASL (age, sex, and location of the chat mate).

He always looks forward to Friday since it signals for him happiness and respite from tiring and boring work. but I have had many CS encounters." On Fridays, usually at 10 p.m., he begins his wild hunt for a "hot babe" by entering local sex chatrooms.2 His cybersex routines in chat rooms usually start with abbreviations coupled with question marks. You ask the chat mate if he/she wants to have CS with you.

Depending on his mood, he can be what he wants to be within the realm of cyberspace: straight, gay, bi, masochist, sadist, etc.

Inside sex chat rooms, from Ted’s experience, moral conventions are thrown out the window.

There are instances when he does not do one-on-one encounters and just extensively flirts with multiple sex-chatters (some lead to "SOP" or sex on phone), lasting until the early morning.