In fact, when it comes to spending time with his children, Black dads are more noteworthy in this respect than dads of other races.

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, Black fathers spend more time in their children’s day-to-day lives than dads from other racial groups.

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But what about the women who want marriage before family like most women of other races?

Should they search under every rock, crevice, university, and (God forbid) jail to find their black man so that everyone else will be happy? There might be a shortage of black, marriageable men, but once black women open their dating pool to include all men, all of a sudden that shortage becomes a surplus.

First, I’ll start this article by saying, “just kidding.” I have immense loyalty to black women, and that’s all I’ve ever dated in my adult life.

But after reading the article “8 Reasons to date a white man,” I just had to respond for the brothers.

Both of us seasoned writers, my co-author, Janice Roshalle Littlejohn and I went to work writing the first handbook on how to navigate the ups and downs and ins and outs of interracial relationships from a black woman’s perspective.

Then the letters rolled in…dozens of black women writing about how my story and the other stories in “Swirling” and on my blog, Beyond Black & White, inspired them to take the risk and find their happy-ever-after in whatever package it came in. I remember when I stumbled across it & it was so awesome to finally find a community of like-minded women!

We see movies depicting high-powered women encouraged to pair up with mechanics, day laborers and misunderstood felons.

The message in those stories is that if black women dig deep and not be so prissy about it, they just might find that “good black man” with a heart of gold, if not a bit poor and non-degreed.

I’ve heard it all, that I’m uppity and don’t know my place because I’m not interested in DBR brothas hollering at me on the street.

I know my worth, and I love that your blog empowers women to embrace their options and choose the best for themselves.

Anyway, I know you sometimes post when people get engaged, and I was hoping you’d consider sharing our story. Sincerely, “A” If there is a key benefit for interracial marriage for black women, I would have to say it would be in having a certain level of empowerment knowing that you have a tremendous bounty of choices for quality men.