OK my boyfriend is 3 years older than me but I love him to death. I take control when he wants to go farther and I don't.

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And that's all about , the said power trip he is getting off on should be overt.

Unless it's just a fun, sexy, baggage-free throw-you-over-your-desk situation where nobody gets hurt at the end.5.

Not necessarily just sexually, but myriad other ways, too: The first guy you watch with, the guy who buys you a copy of Pink Floyd's "Dark Side of The Moon," the first one in the passenger's seat as soon as you get your learner's permit...

Being the older, wiser man is a power trip for him.

If not, the sneaking around, lies and secrets will strain your relationship. Sleeping with him might be a bigger emotional deal for you than you think. And maybe somewhere down the road, things will be different for both of you.

And if you tell them, you'll deal with all-out fights.9. No matter how special he insists you are, the chances are that he's been dating younger girls for years.10. I know hearing that is like sticking a fork in your chest and ripping your heart out. Maybe you're sure that you won't be dramatic about it, like "other girls." But that shit tends to sneak up on you. Let me rephrase that: It probably last, because as you get older, you'll change (which is normal and great so don't fight it! But the only way for that to happen is to let it end when it's supposed to.

And it doesn't mean you're weak or naïve— it just means that you value yourself. If he's married, he's not going to leave his wife for you. He might be running from a bad relationship with a woman his age. It's great how you guys are on the same emotional level, right! It's the emotional version of going from breast buds to boobs!

If he had a nasty breakup with (or for older men, a nasty divorce from) someone in his demographic, there's a good shot that's why he's with you — someone who, ostensibly, can't hurt him. (Wrong.) He's in a different generation than you; he shouldn't be a decade behind emotionally.

There's probably a reason no woman his age wants to date him. Defending your relationship will frequently ruin your friendships.