Instead, read up on their illness so that you know more about it, and ask them how they're handling it.

Ask them how far along the road to recovery they are. From there, you'll be able to better decide how you want to proceed with the relationship.

I don't think it's fair to blame anyone for doing that.

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Then, once you’ve passed that phase, it’s on to really getting to know the other person.

You know you’re superficially compatible, but what about the important things—values, life goals, political beliefs?

In such a case, the drama I spoke of in situation #2, instead of fading after a while because the girl's getting treatment, would in all likelihood never end - because the reality is that if you don't get treatment, then you'll never recover.

So the question then becomes, would I want to date someone who's always going to be unstable? She was a great girl, but she refused to get treatment for her depression.

If she was doing things like this and I really liked her, then I'd definitely still love to date her, because all the drama would be temporary.

Since she's doing the right things to beat her illness, then over time, she eventually would.I know because I've been the mentally ill one in a relationship, and I've also been the healthy one dating someone who's mentally ill.When you're trapped in the throes of a mental illness, you tend to be unstable and erratic, and when you're in that state, it usually leads to a lot of fighting, drama and stress - which of course can be very exhausting and taxing to deal with.treat her differently just because she has a mental illness.Let's call a spade a spade - until the person manages to recover, dating someone in this situation is going to be a roller-coaster.The person in question is not rejecting you because they're being a prejudicial asshole - they're rejecting you because you're not fit to be in a healthy relationship, and because you're not seeking treatment, there's nothing to suggest that you ever will be.