His Fear: That you'll be different from what he's expecting.

But if you are interested, drop hints into your conversation that suggest you're thinking about another hangout...sooner rather than later.

"Mention that new restaurant you want to try and you think he'd love, or tell him there's a movie out that you think you two should see together sometime," says Nakamoto.

That way, he'll get the message that you actually want him to touch you. Yup, before you've even ordered that Bloomin' Onion appetizer, he's already wondering if you'll be hitting the town together next Saturday, too. Guys approach dating with a career-like mindset, says Dobranksy.

"In his mind, he has a job to do on the first date — to impress you.

And if he's unsure, it'll stress him out, since his failure will be a blow to his ego.

What You Can Do: If you're not feeling the guy, it's not your problem to make him feel better about it.I’d like her to be my girlfriend, I really want her and I just don’t want to ruin it. So when you go out on a date with this vision, you don’t want to ruin anything because you want this vision to end up being your girlfriend. Just stop having this fantasy of who she is in your mind and you won’t get nervous and the conversation will flow. And when you’re the gift, you don’t give your power away to anybody on a date.Can you give me some help, some tips, some pointers, some conversation starters? Let her get to know you, get to know her and see whether or not she deserves you. The best first dates are always coffee shops that have some music playing softly in the background. So when you’re on that first date, act as if you’re hanging out with a new friend, just getting to know them.The sudden blow-off could be because you ended up being different than you were when he first asked you out.