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“Instead of thinking in terms of black and white (He likes me/he doesn’t like me), think in terms of grey.
By the way, whether you agree or not, I considered myself a NICE guy.
I slept with very few people, I never said, “I love you” and I rarely kept a physical relationship going beyond a few weeks, if I felt it was headed nowhere. To a woman who woke up next to me after a first date and thought that we were “in a relationship”, I can see how she felt differently…. My friend, dating coach and matchmaker, Julie Ferman, talks about what a strange world we live in where we are more comfortable sleeping with a stranger than we are TALKING about what it means to sleep together. Better to hop in bed and hope we can handle the emotional consequences than it is to have a weird conversation about commitment, right? Until you GET this, until you truly EMBRACE the fact that we think with our penises and allow our brains to catch up weeks later, you’re ALWAYS going to be surprised at the “disconnect” between men’s words and their actions.
I feel that’s the respect I should give to another person.
And if they don’t mean anything to me, then it’s because I don’t want to interact with that person.
(We recommend that you hold that conversation until at least date three or four).
As a result, he’ll feel a whole lot better about the possibility of having a relationship if you give him a little time. Not only is this phase of dating exciting, but it also allows you time to “data date” and collect the information you need to determine if he’s boyfriend material AND someone you want to be in a relationship with.
While you might think it cute to have three glasses of wine at dinner, he does not. If you need to loosen up before a date, watch a comedy right before you leave or take a walk. One guy told us that he went on a first date and his date wouldn’t order any food because she wasn’t “hungry.” But then every time he cut a piece of steak on his plate, she reached over and ate it!
Best to leave your glass half full and your plate empty(ish).
While our male counterparts can confuse the heck out of us Dignity Daters, sometimes they can be the best when it comes to dishing out dating advice.