Singles have a lot more options than they used to, which can translate to less motivation to settle down.

We need to be careful in this current, casual culture that we live in, that we don’t treat dating like going into a clothes store, scanning the racks, picking up 3 or 4 outfits that we think might be the ‘one’ we are looking for, for that special occasion, Relationships are both fragile and robust.

We cannot ‘pop into’ someone else’s life, ask them to reveal their heart and then say, “Sorry, but no thanks.” It is not what Jesus meant when He said, “love your neighbor as yourself” or “do not awaken love until it so desires.” I don’t remember where I read this, among the many sites I scanned when researching around this subject, but it was so well written I decided to put it in here, word for word: “Back in the days when I was a teenager or a woman in her early 20’s, you ended up dating someone who was physically in ‘your world’.

How to Conquer it: Instead of swiping right or clicking “Yes” to anyone with a cute smile or a nice… You’ll be left with higher quality matches, and the quantity will not overwhelm you.

You’ll end up having the time to get to know the matches you do have, because you’re not trying to find time to message 100 people.

We get discouraged that he or she was online 5 minutes ago, yet we haven’t received a message in days. You don’t want to know when someone was last online – because you shouldn’t bother to read between lines if they don’t exist.

If they haven’t messaged you in a couple of days, move on.

Someone at school, in your youth group, at your church or around your neighborhood.

A friend of a friend, your friend’s brother, your mom’s best friend’s son, your dad’s work mate’s stepson… Basically, somewhere there was a mutual connection or person that meant you came across each other. The advantages included things like: someone you knew, knew them and could give you an opinion on what they were like.

” There are lots of things that come to mind when I think about ‘dating dilemmas’- To internet-date or not to internet-date? When do I tell him about ‘stuff’ I have done or my past relationships?

Do I tell him at all and if I don’t, am I being secretive? The journey of ‘learning to love’ is lifelong and as lovers of God we want to be experts at this one thing when our turn comes to stand face to face with Him: Love.

Through creating a positive community where young people can appreciate themselves and others, we instantly remove them from external sexual pressures and allow them to simply ask: 'who am I?