Too many men seek out a new relationship before the dust has settled on their divorce, says psychologist Sam J.

"Tell the woman you've just been through a tough divorce and that you're not ready for a committed relationship," he suggests.

"Acknowledge that it is not the right time for that." After a divorce, it's easy for guys to let themselves become isolated, especially if the ex gets custody of the kids. It can worsen feelings of depression, guilt, and loneliness, a potentially dangerous mix.

Unless of course you're looking for a fling (like him), looking to experiment (as is he), or looking to get your heart broken.

Be particularly cautious if he's already looking for Spouse #2. Do pay attention to what your kids think of him, and what his kids think of you.

"She can meet the kids when you know you are serious." Don't make the mistake of continuing to fight with your ex, especially if children are involved.

"You don't want to be seen as an enemy or an antagonist but as a co-parent," says Arizona State University professor emeritus of psychology Sanford L. "I'm not saying that that will be easy, but everybody will be better off." Braver, co-author of Divorced Dads: Shattering the Myths, recommends that men consider conflict and anger management classes.

In this video, image consultant, matchmaker and Your Tango Expert Kimberly Seltzer explains that "there are no universal answers to [the] question" of whether men will date divorced women because, frankly, "it all depends on the guy."Instead, Kimerly suggests what's most important is for you to focus less on what the guy wants, and more on what you want from a dating experience.

Find out more about what Kimberly has to say by watching the video above!

In case you're wondering, one divorced dad swept me off my feet (then dropped me over a ledge).

Another captured my heart (and still holds it, most tenderly).

It keeps you active, stimulates your mind, potentially advances your career, and gets you out of the house. Finley, Ph D, a psychologist who specializes in issues facing divorced men and an emeritus professor of psychology at Florida International University in Miami. Date when you feel ready, but leave the kids out of it." Buser agrees.