I feel you as I’m kind of programmed this way myself; however, that is very lonely, so I’m doing stuff to change that. It’ll help you out with your self-esteem issues that are manifesting themself in your relationships. Of course, your mind is filled with questions about what to do next. Am I entitled to post-separation support (pss) or alimony? Sure, it's the question we all want to ask but are too embarrassed to come out and say, "Can I date while I'm separated? Your attorney is not going judge you (and if they do, you need to find a new attorney right away).That means that although you get divorced, you are still going to have to carry on a parenting relationship with the other parent.

Now, although the law says North Carolina is a "no fault" state and that marital fault (ie: your new relationship can be viewed as adultery although you are separated) does not lead to any automatic determinations, it will certainly be a consideration.

And, a real, live human is making the decision, and this human – the judge – has fairly wide discretion (ie: they are THE boss).

You went into your second relationship hoping for marriage.

You weren’t looking for “terminal.” Your love life was very acceptable up until this point. I stopped with your question about how you got to the point of dating a married man.

And, while it may seem strange or uncomfortable to ask this question, it is certainly a question you should be asking because what you do during the period of separation can have serious, irreversible consequences.

Beginning a new relationship before your divorce is finalized has emotional, strategic and legal consequences. My suggested answer – my advice to you – would be: don't do it!In North Carolina, sexual relations with someone other than your spouse is a crime, and adultery is technically a misdemeanor.Now, that is the worse-case scenario, and hopefully an unlikely scenario.A judge may be reluctant to expose and introduce your child(ren) to this new person. In North Carolina, child support is set using the North Carolina Child Support Guidelines.Generally, the amount of support under the guideline is presumed sufficient to meet the child's needs; however, the court may deviate from the guidelines.Generally, the guidelines use each parent's income as one factor in determining the amount of support to grant.