It’s a part of our tradition and it goes back to why women want and need men to begin with.

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He will not get invested in you if you try to do his job and pursue him.

He may feel flattered, curious, or think he's about to get lucky.

But rarely will he get invested in you because it wasn't his idea. I don’t care how busy or shy he is, there are no excuses.

Occasionally, a man will go out with a woman who asks him out and if after the first date he likes her, he will take over the pursuit - provided of course that she let's him. However, when you get in there and take over his job by calling or asking him out, you confuse him or worse, you risk turning him off. So, if you pick up the ball and pursue him ifhe’s not doing it right or fast enough for you, YOU LOSE. If a man you are interested in doesn’t ask you out, call you back, set up another date, he is simply not that interested. Because men know exactly what they need to do to see you and win you over.

As a woman, your role is to be warm, friendly, and enjoyable.

If you like him, make him feel good because men choose women who make them feel good about themselves. Let him know you appreciate his choice of restaurant or wine selection.As a dating coach, I often explain the roles each gender plays in dating.Let me start by saying that I define dating as only the first 4 - 10 dates depending on the couple.So here I am, Ronnie Ann Ryan – The Dating Coach, filling you in, because YOU NEED TO KNOW! Sometimes I literally have to beg women to drop the ball. Leave the proverbial ball in his court and if he wants to, he’ll pick it up to pursue you.Don't interfere with the game because in fact, dating is still an ancient mating ritual that has not caught up to our relative business equality. A man usually wants to win you over and win your heart and that's how he gets invested in you.I have found that strong, independent woman tend to want to get the ball rolling in the relationship area, just like you do in business.