Dating with out drama
Don’t date if you feel cynical, jaded, or bored with dating because you will no doubt draw in people who perpetuate what you already feel and scare off the decent guys.
If you don’t want to spend a lot of time wrecking your head over whether he really likes you, whether he’ll call, or why he didn’t call, keep your knickers on for the first few dates at least.
While starting fights and stalking definitely falls under the umbrella of “dating drama,” most men have a broader definition of the term.
Unfortunately, many guys consider normal discussions about what is or isn’t working and showing emotion to be drama … Here's why they think that: Women are emotional beings. We shouldn't feel the need to judge, qualify, or change that fact.
This is a serious overload for the person on the receiving end.
Don’t be bitchy, aloof, confrontational, or aggressive. Much of the drama that happens with dating arises from not being true to yourself and being agreeable.
Oh and if your dates suss that you’re a date player, you’ll come off looking like a childish fool. It’s a tricky business juggling several men and requires you to be very organised.
Avoid emotionally unavailable men (Mr Unavailable’s) and Bad Boy Lovers like the plague. Meet in an open, public place for the first few dates and keep your spider senses alert for anything that comes across as strange, intense, or stalkery. Unless you’re anal retentive enough to do the juggling without breaking a sweat, steer clear.
Don’t date if you are already involved with someone.
This is a surefire way to create unnecessary drama.
You may feel like you need to test your dates but you’re creating a relationship based on misconceptions.
And how can you trust what you think you know when you’ve been playing games?
One of the biggest sources of dating drama is ignoring the fact that men and women think, act, and communicate differently. There will come a time, usually after several months of dating someone special, when most guys will start to evaluate their feelings and think about a possible future together.