Mary, I feel confident that once you get your symptoms under control you will be able to release the trauma of this painful time in your life.

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I am still alive and although I'm in physical pain from my symptoms, I know they will eventually subside.

When they do, the pain of what's happened won't be so apparent and I can move on with my life.

I have many reasons for engaging in this kind of relationship (a very long story) but believe me, it's not my long term choice.

I want an exclusive and totally loving relationship with a man who adores me and I him.

The Gremlin, as fellow dating coach Marni Battista likes to call it, is that mean, judgmental, condemning voice inside your head.

The Gremlin is responsible for all of your sabotaging thoughts.Dear Colette, my question is a bit "heavy" and I hope you are willing to help me with it, because it is totally messing with my body, my heart, my head, with my confidence, with my ability to believe that it's possible for anyone to ever love me again, or ever want to risk being with me because of the physical and psychological impact.I wish it weren't true, but I have contracted the virus for genital herpes.I would however like to bring your attention to a great page I've found called "Telling Someone" on They give excellent advice on how to handle this super sensitive topic.This is where I feel a little concerned, and not from a coaching or therapy perspective (that has to do with helping you find a more supportive outlook), but from a physical health standpoint.