Getting over rejection in dating
Stop feeling bad about the fact that someone who you (whether you choose to admit it or not) had clear signs that they weren’t capable of being the person you wanted them to be or giving you the relationship you want, didn’t ‘change’ for you.
The funny thing is – you not accepting someone is…rejection. They couldn’t give you what you want (even if they talked out of their bum) = overestimated capacity and Betting On Potential Even if they were ‘great’, they’re just not that special that you should deem yourself as being some sort of ‘rejection case’.
They call it ‘breaking up’, ‘it not working out’, ‘not getting the job’, ‘the friendship growing apart’, ‘different priorities’, ‘a disagreement’, ‘they said NO’ etc.
In dating and relationships, ‘rejection’ is impossible to avoid because not It’s unavoidable and being able to say NO, to opt out of situations, to admit when something isn’t working, is part of the natural order of freeing yourself up to be available for a mutual relationship.
Instead of feeling crap about everything you didn’t get that you think you were entitled to – remember who they were and why it’s over. They’re not ready for commitment whether it’s you in the hot seat or The Most Perfect Person in the Universe.
If there’s some good in there, great, but if what you’re mourning is the loss of what happen, don’t ‘waste’ your life by devoting it to taking up pain and rejection solitude as a vocation. Trust me when I say you haven’t discovered anything fabulous about a date that warrants you carrying on like they were the last chance saloon! Whatever it is – it’s not the definition Hi, I’m Natalie!
Count the number of people who have severely rejected you.
Divide the second number by the first, and you’ll see how the result rarely exceeds 1%. If you only drink 1% milk, you feel your diet is healthful because after all, 1% milk fat is almost nothing, correct?From being the last to be chosen to join the volleyball team to receiving a college admissions response in the dreaded “thin envelope,” I quickly learned that not everybody thought the highest of me.As years went by and I took on more risks, I invited more rejection into my life.Being consciously aware of the people who have encouraged you will allow you to align with high-energy emotions and positive situations.Although rejection is subjective, you could decide to use the experience as an opportunity to contemplate your current behaviors, and determine ways to grow and become a better person.Unfortunately, if you have found yourself in unavailable relationships, especially as a Fallback Girl (or guy), you have some major issues with rejection, either taking it too hard and being derailed by it, or busting a gut to ensure that you don’t experience it, even though you actually .