More unhappy couples are getting divorced when the kids leave the house. We also know that dating online does not mean that you’re not dating men you meet in real life. If you meet a guy through friends, at the market, at a concert, great.

It’s 7 hours/180 pages of advice that takes you through the entire process of online dating chronologically. All you can do is change your mindset and approach to the dating process and let the chips fall where they may.

I’m betting you can find TWENTY things you can do differently to get different results. And since I’ve helped a LOT of women over 50, I have to believe that all you can do is keep on keeping on, instead of embracing the idea that NO women over the age of 50 find partners online. Great timing for this post as my 54th birthday looms up next month.

Now that we’ve established that online dating is a smart and necessary long-term strategy for women over 50, the question becomes, “What can you do better? Are you initiating contact with at least one man a day who states that he’s open to women your age?

” You think you’re doing everything you can possibly do. I don’t know the answer, but most people who say they’ve taken my advice have only taken a few pieces of my advice.

I initiate contact with men in an age-range of about 3 years younger up to about 8 years older than myself.

The potential matches that the site sends me are age appropriate for me, but when I look at the age-range that those men desire, (usually 35-50) I often move past them, knowing I can’t compete with women in their desired range, even though many of those men are as much as 5-8 years older than me!I’m not ashamed of my age and hiding it seems phony.When I meet men in person in my daily life, I get a better response because they see the whole me, hear my voice, get a sense of what I’m like, all before they know how old I am, meaning I can be defined by other qualities.I assume the reason for this is they can get younger women to respond to them, so why would they go for me when they have a chance with the 45 year-old version of me?If their first wife was their age, like a college sweetheart or whatever, they probably feel entitled to a newer model, so to speak. It’s frustrating, not to mention depressing and more than a little humiliating.Ive asked some of the guys my age who have contacted me as an “exception” about their success with their age range search.