And when they read romance novels, this theory is further reinforced - for, in the classic teen romance novel, the girl without a boyfriend, or �sweet sixteen and never been kissed� is the poor, laughing stock, who doesn�t have a date to the �prom.� And on the pages of a typical adult romance novel, the heroine is always a successful, beautiful career woman, but, she feels, that �something� is lacking in her life..that �something� is naturally a man.

She might see someone at school, who is popular, and good-looking [i.e.

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Young Muslim men and women (or boys and girls) do not enter into one-on-one intimate relationships, spending time alone together, "getting to know each other" in a very deep way before deciding whether that's the person they will marry.

Rather, in Islam pre-marital relationships of any kind between members of the opposite sex is forbidden.

This is called (Sahih Bukhari) Now it is important to note that Allah never prohibits something unless it is harmful to us. First, most reports of sexual abuse are not committed by strangers. So, overwhelmingly, it is those people who you are out on a ‘date’ with that commit these crimes.

Also, as dating has become more widespread in a society, so has unwanted pregnancy, as well as sexually transmitted diseases.

Family involvement in the choice of a marriage partner helps assure that the choice is based not on romantic notions, but rather on a careful, objective evaluation of the compatibility of the couple.

That is why these marriages often prove successful in the long-term.

You explain that dating is needed since arranged marriages are not feasible.

However, by saying this you imply that these are the only two routes to getting married.

In fact, the Prophet (sws) has told us that those who follow the right path will always be ‘different’ or ‘strange’ to the mainstream.