A lot of women will tell you after contacting them that their photo is 5 years old! I got replies from 2 of them stating that they were interested.

And as you get into your mid-30’s, the bar scene is really old and set-ups have become a bit of a joke. But because it creates opportunity where previously there was none. My best friend in New York is marrying a man she met on e Harmony. My sister’s best friend is in love with a man she met on e Harmony. So as I see it, you have two choices: quit online dating and make a supreme effort to go to as many parties, coffee shops and adult education classes as possible OR try to find a way to avoid the worst of the online daters.

While it’s nice to say, “I want to meet someone organically, where our eyes meet, so I can feel chemistry”, that simply doesn’t happen very often. My first love, in 2003, was a Filipino woman that worked in the pharmaceutical industry and lived in a different part of town. I have dozens of clients who are married, engaged and in love with people they met online. So let’s acknowledge the flaws of online dating: the liars, the bores, the flakes, the crazies, the morons, the perverts, the poor spellers, and so on. The third, and most popular choice, is to quit and wait for your soulmate to drop out of the sky, like “The Secret” for love. Your best bet is to keep dusting yourself off, learning from your mistakes, and staying in the game. But sometimes, with enough perseverence (as well as luck, timing, a good profile and a positive attitude), you’ll fall in love.

When my father heard I was online dating he was deeply sceptical.

He told me a story about a friend of his whose internet date had turned out to be morbidly obese as evidence that it was an avenue to be avioded at all costs.

Turn on the TV and it’s not about kittens being saved from trees, but drive-by shootings.

That doesn’t mean there aren’t plenty of kittens saved from trees.Has my dad’s attitude changed- of course not- in fact i doubt he even recognises a connection.My internet dating experience from a males point of view has been disappointing and hurtful at times to say the least.The system is set up so that you buy stamps at a piece and these are used to send emails to members of the opposite sex.Each RSVP member has a profile which consists of a photo or photos and relevant personal informations like height, weight etc. you send kisses to potential beaus via the RSVP system and if they are interested they send a kiss back.They don’t have time to “date around” several times a week.(actually neither would I). Women, being more vulnerable than men, are more hesitant to date online, so you get a situation where there’s a lot more men than women.