Here in the United States, yes, we are blessed to have a diverse society with large, vibrant communities of different cultures. 5 years ago, I automatically saw anyone else who was dating interracially as my ally…or at least a kindred spirit. While I’m not sure if this is bred by jealously or insecurity, the end result is ongoing challenges to the integrity of your own relationship. Other Black women who date interracially (including my BF’s ex), seem quick to make judgement calls on the quality of our relationship (in spite of having very limited information available).

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If this is the case, take the high road and be polite, kind and thoughtful. Sadly, the minority community will label those who date outside of their race as “sellouts”.

This makes no sense, but many people still hold on to this. From a personal perspective, I never saw interracial relationships as problematic…in spite of having grown up in a place and time where it was relatively rare (although this is, thankfully, no longer the case).

Unfortunately the “battle for love” is one that is fought among people of all persuasions.

With a divorce rate of well over one-third, we all have a lot on our plate when it comes to maintaining a healthy relationship.

Although I didn’t understand the details of it, my father’s mother was of South Asian decent: her parents were Bengalis who came to Jamaica as indentured servants.

They had 7 children and only 2 of those 7 married other South Asians.

The rest, including my grandmother, married and had children with Black Jamaican men.

No one demonized my grandmother for this, because she was born and raised in a country where 90% of the population was Black.

If the woman is in fact submissive and obedient by nature, then they are going to have to fight for the legitimacy of their relationship in that it means more to them than just a man trying to get a woman who will obey him.

In addition, buy into disparaging stereotypical comments made about yourself or your relationship either.

The type of conversation you have may differ depending on whether you live at home or if you are an independent adult.