In a church that requires chastity but a world in which random hookups are the norm, what about the plight of single adults who are well past the average Mormon dating age?

The Bad: After a member expresses interest in you from your free profile, you have to become a member in order to contact them back.

Some of the pictures on the website are cheesy looking. You get the feeling that the people behind CTR Match are truly interested in helping singles meet and aren’t just trying to make money.

I was married to a non-member, and when I started thinking about dating again, I figured I would date both members and non-members. I was crazy for this guy and he was crazy for me, but he just could not wrap his mind around two adults being in love and not having sex. I had been sexually active, and now I was just going to stop? After the frenzy died down, there were 2 or 3 men that I continued to IM and email, but where it got interesting is about every week or so I would get a new “hit”–someone would just pop in with an IM and start flirting with me. When i would look at their profiles I would find that the majority of these guys were KIDS. ” What I quickly learned is the reason older chicks are “cool” is because many of us are divorced which means we were previously sexually active, and quite possibly more open to being sexually active now and teaching a few things to the youngsters. My conclusion is, for the most part, that the LDS dating sites are cyber singles bars where men (women, too, I am sure) can easily hide the big ole skeletons in their closet behind pretending to be a faithful (notice I didnt say perfect) member of the church.

I mean KIDS: age range from 21(hello horny RM) to 26. One of the kids actually told me “everything, but . .” was OK, and you would be worthy to keep your temple recommend. One young man was looking for a more geographically convenient hookup. So, what can single (or divorced) adults of a certain age do if they want to keep the law of chastity while dating? What are your experiences with Mormon dating sites? Have any of you experienced the “Reverse Cougar” described above (young Mormon male seeks experienced hot older female)?

Today’s guest post is by I was sooooooooooooooooo naive. I am not, nor do I claim to be anything close to perfect. But seriously, I am a cool chick and I made a commitment before I even started dating at 16 to keep the law of chastity. When I broke up with that guy, I decided that I would date only members. After I signed up and logged on, it was like I was the “belle of the ball.” It was a huge ego boost, but what I soon realized is that it had very little to do with me.

I actually thought I would find my personal Peter Priesthood on one of those sites. After my divorce, I committed myself again to following the law of chastity. Those feelings and desires just dont go away when you sign the divorce papers. Even if they didnt follow the law of chastity themselves, they would get why I did. I was simply fresh meat and the sharks were circling. ” and got responses along the lines of “Older chicks are cool! Of all the men I met, I am still on friendly terms with two.

There was one girl he had been “seeing” on the other side of town, and he was talking to me because I lived in his area.

singles sites have realized a lot of the singles looking online for love are LDS. So they’ve started advertising saying things like “Find LDS Singles”, etc.

Robert Schick, of Intellectual Reserve Inc., who represents the Mormon church's trademarks, argued that the dating site has no official connection with the LDS and consequently, no claim to use its language or images."We believe we are well within our rights to protect both the use of the name of the church and the image of the Salt Lake temple and to make clear that the plaintiff's business has no connection whatsoever to the church," Schick told The Houston Chronicle.