If you are a dude sending a message to a cool chic, get it into your head, you are not the only one. ’ or ‘I think I who your favourite actor is,’ work great.

Her inbox is most likely littered with boring messages like yours unless you do something about it. Think beyond your comfort zone be intriguing, coax her into letting you in and reacting to your first email.

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About the Author: Krystal Baugher Krystal Baugher lives in Denver, Colorado.

I’ve been doing the whole online dating thing on and off for years now and let me just say, I’ve had the entire range of good, bad and ugly messages arrive in my inbox.

There was a time I even created a blog to showcase some of the best of the worst because I felt the world should share in the horror with me.

Don’t make her feel you have spent a sleepless night preparing your message. Try to get her primed for some chit-chat by asking her how she’s doing or send her a laugh or crazy fact you googled up. No butthead, she’s looking for hookup date, hence the reason why she is on a hookup website. But, you are aware that Net can be an unsafe place to play. It actually pays to know something about that chic before you click send.

Don’t lose sleep over crafting the perfect message; there is plenty of time for that if all things work out. I came up with some cautious questions for my protection in case…

Check out her profile and come up with a topic you can latch onto. If you are not a clown-type person, just Google ‘jokes’ or ‘smart lines for dates’ and see what you come up with. This type of information is most likely in your profile, so it does not need to be copied and pasted into a message, dumbo. It got a reply from over 90% of the women we sent them to.

Keep Simple & Syrupy Your initial message should be straight and to the point nothing beyond that. Think of something more interesting to say, for Pete’s sake. # Best Sample 1 I would leave out the online date procedures and invite you for a nightcap.

Three sentences are all you need to write in a first message.

This establishes your interest and initiates conversation.

Too short and they go in the pile of “ If you’re looking for an authentic committed relationship, something a bit more fleeting, someone to go out on adventures with or someone to come over at night for Netflix binges, know your own wants and desires.