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For the interview with Paul, I experimented with a video interview for the first time.
Paul Oyer, Professor of Economics in the Graduate School of Business at Stanford University, has written an extremely thought provoking book entitled Everything I Ever Needed to Know About Economics I Learned From Online Dating available on Harvard Business Review Press.
The book is an extremely fun read and I really enjoyed interacting with Paul Oyer.
The second, related problem is that people tend to make negative assumptions if you don't explicitly offer up a certain piece of information about yourself in your profile, like your body type, or your income."If you have a positive attribute, you have every incentive to say that and to be forthcoming about it," Oyer says.
"Whereas if you have a negative attribute, you can say it, because they'll eventually find out anyway, but the alternative is to just ignore it and hope that it's not a big deal when you finally meet the person." In other words, online dating sites are not the place to be modest.
"The children and the dog were parts of my life I wasn't willing to give up, and a relationship that didn't work those in was going to be a problem," he says.
It's best to know what you're definitely not going to change about yourself, like your political beliefs, to be with someone else.
"I could send that message to 100 people." I'm much more likely to respond to a message from someone who's spent enough time reading my profile to know we both enjoy the same movies, or who offers a reading suggestion because he knows I'm a writer.
Spending a little more time crafting that first message is the best online dating example of what economists call "signaling," because it's something only someone who's truly interested in you is willing to do.
According to Oyer, there are two major problems with presenting information about yourself on online dating sites.
The first is that people lie about themselves all the time — an infamous Ok Cupid blog post outlines the big ways people fudge their personal details, including how guys often say they're two inches taller than they are in real life.
So whether its someone's hairstyle or their taste in music, try not to immediately assume you won't hit it off.