When I learned about this event, I wanted to find out more about it so I interviewed Shasta: What exactly is Speed-Friending?Speed-friending is similar in concept to speed-dating in that it gives attendees a great chance to meet many people in a fast and structured way for the purpose of determining potential connection. When the women arrive, there will be drinks and mingling while everyone checks in and then the real fun begins!If you live in the San Francisco Bay area you can take a stab at speed-friending.

We also have a blog which will have helpful tips added every month so you have a better idea of what to ask the person sitting opposite you during a speed dating evening.

Speed dating is the hot new alternative on the dating scene, compared to barhopping and online dating.

So how can you really get to know someone in such a short amount of time? Check out these 40 speed dating questions to ask a guy and you’ll have no problem figuring out if he’s a hit or miss in a matter of minutes.1. Was he the victim of a cheating girlfriend, or was he a controlling hothead the woman could no longer stand? On the other hand, this could reveal he’s a family man depending on his answer.4. If he doesn’t have any kids, it’s important to find out whether or not he’s up for the challenge. Does he wants to relax on the sandy shores of Jamaica, or speed down the highest mountains of Denver? Is there anything in particular you’re passionate about? Just like the movies question, knowing his favorite music can tell you whether he’s laid back or prefers a more energetic style.26. This is important- you need to know whether he’s shallow and only dates women for their looks, or if he has something important in mind when seeking a gal- perhaps an engaging personality or a college degree.27. A man who loves to pick up a good book and just relax is a major turn on for some women, and you can surely tell a lot about a man’s personality with this simple question.28. This is always a fun question, and the answer may really shock you- or leave you rolling on the floor with laughter.

This is another make it or break it for most woman, so knowing the answer to this question right away is imperative.5. No woman wants to be with an unemployed man with no potential, so knowing his current employment status is important. This is the perfect question to really see if the two of you are a match. He loves fast cars, and you enjoy slow bike rides- maybe not so much of a match.10. If he’s got 13 dogs and you can’t stand dogs, then the two of you might not work out. You might find out that this man has a soft spot for animals and wants to save the dolphins, or maybe he’s an avid pianist and enjoys classical music profoundly.22. This question will let you know just how confident he is.23. Again, we all have something we wish we could change. This question just might lead the two of you to making plans for a dinner date! This really is an icebreaking question as it lets you know a little more about him without asking anything too serious.29. This is another great question that always comes with a string of interesting answers. If you were given three wishes, what would you wish for? This question is incredibly fun and will definitely have a great answer.31. Speed dating doesn’t have to be all serious questions. A man who can do DIY projects (and actually enjoys them) is an automatic winner for any woman. Ok, so be careful not to ask this question too soon. I think we can all agree that a man who can speak more than one language is just sexy, so this is definitely something you will want to know right off the bat.39.

It will undoubtedly distress the conversation as the two of your laugh and giggle about embarrassing situations you’ve been through.36. It’s good to know these things before any serious feelings start forming. While this might work for couples who’ve been together for several years, you want to hear something more romantic, something that shows he actually cares about pampering you instead of getting you in his sheets as soon as possible.

If his worst habit is just something you can’t stand and refuse to accept (snoring, smoking, alcohol, etc), then it’s probably best to quit while you’re ahead. Think glamorous dinner on the beach by candlelit followed by salsa dancing at the sexiest downtown spot.

You only get four minutes to make an impression at a Dateina Dash Speed Dating event, those four minutes will fly by if youve got lots to say or really drag if you run out of conversation.

Lets face it, no one wants to be with someone who doesnt talk and is boring.

Because of this limited time, the way you dress and the questions you ask are really important. There are numerous other questions you can ask on a speed date if you rack your brains.