Authors of the new report note that the CDC has changed the way it phrases its questions about teen dating violence, leading more students to report assaults.Teens who have experienced dating violence are at much higher risk for a variety of serious problems.

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For all of those times he said I was ugly and worthless, I have made it my mission.

For all of those times he called me a tramp and a whore, I have made it my mission.

Although I had been stripped of all remnants of self-worth, I found an ounce of esteem that told me I deserved better.

In those moments, I desperately needed somebody who understood.

The relationship took an emotional toll to the point where I was getting severe panic attacks. Nobody knew about the many deliberate close call, head-on collisions while he was threatening to "kill us both." Finally, after almost eight years of abuse, I knew I had to leave. I knew that if I continued on this path, I might never see the light through the darkness. I knew if I didn't leave I could fall back into the cycle.

I ended up in the hospital a few times and was put in counseling but I never spoke about the abuse. Not because of some fight or big blowout, I was just done. I knew if I wanted any life at all, I had to choose me no matter what the cost.

Somebody who could guide me back to myself, my voice, and my truth.

But I chose to keep my secret hidden, I chose to protect the people I loved, I chose to find my own way. I found my voice and rebuilt my foundation on self-acceptance and self-love.

It soon progressed to name-calling, insults, unfounded accusations, degradation, humiliation, and isolation.

The first step in domestic violence is to charm the victim; the second is to isolate the victim. I began believing I deserved the abuse, and thought everybody else believed I was who he said I was.

It took many years to repair the mental and emotional damage, but I'm here to say that it is possible.