Well, from an economist’s perspective, I was ignoring what we call “statistical discrimination.” And so, people see that you’re separated, and they assume a lot more than just that.I just thought, “I’m separated, I’m happy, I’m ready to look for a new relationship,” but a lot of people assume if you’re separated, you’re either not really — that you may go back to your former spouse — or that you’re an emotional wreck, that you’re just getting over the breakup of your marriage and so forth.And those frictions are what leads to unemployment.

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Paul Solman: I want to quote a line from Bob Frank’s 1988 book, “Passions Within Reason.” He writes, “People who have participated in dating services are indeed easier to meet, just as the advertisements say, but signaling theory says that, on the average, they are less worth meeting.” Paul Oyer: The online dating market had a hard time getting up and going.

It had a hard time getting critical mass, because there was an adverse selection problem initially.

You want the most choice, because what you’re looking for is the best match.

To find somebody who matches you really well, it’s better to have a 100 choices than 10.

You have to set up your dating profile, you have to go on a lot of dates that don’t go anywhere.

You have to read profiles, and you have to take the time to go to singles bars if that’s the way you’re going to try to find somebody.

So naively just saying, “Hey, I’m ready for a new relationship,” or whatever I wrote in my profile, I got a lot of notices from women saying things like, “You look like the type of person I would like to date, but I don’t date people until they’re further away from their past relationship.” So that’s one mistake.

If it had dragged on for years and years, it would have gotten really tiresome.

So eventually, you’re no longer separated and the problem solves itself, whereas if you have a problem like you’ve been on the site for years and years, people might assume you’re a lemon who can’t find a relationship. Lee Koromvokis: So that would be like a house that’s been on the market too long?

Paul Oyer: Yes, like a house that’s been on the market too long. A lot of people are finding it hard to find a job even though the job market has revived. They lost their job when the market was really bad.

People made the assumption back in the 1990s when online dating started that anybody who went to an online dating site was a loser who could not meet people the old-fashioned way.