Again as I wrote in my book, "If you don’t enjoy going to the grocery store with this person to buy eggs or changing the clothes at the laundromat, then you might not enjoy doing marriage.Because marriage is built on a million more mundane moments than magical." How do you envision marriage after 10 years? Do you have three kids encased in white picket glory? Are you doing missions work in a different country?

If your visions for the future look very different, it’s better to discuss it now than to be surprised by it later.

For first-timers to speed dating events, wondering which questions to ask can be a little daunting. Ditch or Date offers everyone the chance to ask interesting and reasonable questions after they’ve read our suggestions.

The problem is most of us have never articulated what those values really are.

And if you don’t know your values, how can you expect your partner to have a clue? Two people who are following Christ can still have some different core values that tangibly direct their decisions.

But just because you want to pretend your monsters don’t exist doesn’t mean they’re just going to magically go away. As I wrote in my book 101 Secrets for your Twenties,"Newly married and living in a small apartment is no place to store a luggage set full of your baggage.

And marriage has the amazing ability to take all that you hoped would remain hidden and put it on stage for a nationally televised interview that your in-laws will be watching. Begin to ditch those bags now." Marriage is as everyday as it gets. I seem to run into this a lot and haven’t seen this addressed.In my first email, I usually ask a few questions and figure the female will answer them, which they usually do, but then they don’t ask anything of me but still seem interested.We also have a blog which will have helpful tips added every month so you have a better idea of what to ask the person sitting opposite you during a speed dating evening. Subscribe, choose the community that you most identify with or want to learn more about and we’ll send you the news that matters most once a week throughout Trump’s first 100 days in office.When I was dating I remember constantly being smothered with that one giant question. To magically stumble upon “The One” like finding the gold at the end of a rainbow that is being carried by a unicorn with leprechaun jockey.