Then they say, “So my birthday is this Saturday and some friends are getting together. Plus, it may freak them out if you give them a present that most people save for their 10th wedding anniversary.

or this gift, fellas, I’d recommend an elegant romantic dinner out and a little something that you know they will like, to top it off.

Plus, a gift can say a lot about your feelings – are they lukewarm or red hot?

The pressure to nail the proper gift that says how you feel without going overboard (or being underwhelming) is more stressful than obsessively checking your phone for a text, an email, or even (gasp) a call back.

Did the guy stand you up after he said he would meet you out (ignoring your five very carefully-worded texts)?

Or did he hit your pal's party with you, then give you a kiss you'll never forget at the end of the night?

Bringing up the holiday casually could be a good way to measure how the dude feels about it (and perhaps just how romantic-minded he is), as well as give you some insight into his past relationships or experiences (which is helpful).

If you're really into him and would like to spend Valentine's Day together, you have to tell him so.The situation: you’ve started a new relationship in the past couple of weeks / months, and you know that Christmas is coming. Let’s discuss: This is the first thing that you’ll consider. Some might argue yes, depending on how close you’ve grown or how many dates you’ve had, some might say no. After all, the person is not expecting to be blown away…not just yet. So, maybe you're kinda-sorta seeing a guy, but you haven't quite DTR-ed (our shorthand for "defined the relationship") yet.We’re always hearing that we could be having better sex, a better orgasm, or a better relationship.