What questions to ask in online dating message
This is information you’ll get eventually, but maybe we can keep it light and positive on the first few dates, please? Seriously, why does a man need to know if I live alone?
In my opinion, this question just shows that he's calculating how soon we’ll be hooking up, which is just tacky.
If you’re someone who has trouble making small talk on dates, one of my tricks is to start with current things, and go from there.
While we all had different experiences, there was one thing we all agreed on: There are a few questions we are absolutely of hearing from guys on a first date. Asking me what I “do for fun” kind of makes me feel like I’m on an interview, not a date.
Some of you may be thinking that this question means the guy is trying to plan a future date for us. There is no faster way to make me feel like I’m failing at life than to ask me why I’m single.
I really wish you were right, but that’s what makes this question extra annoying: The same guys who ask me what I to do for fun will turn around in two weeks, and ask me what I would like to do for our first date, even though I’ve given them a list of things I do for fun. I mean, what is the right answer to a question like this?
Should I say, “Well, I don’t hook up right away, so most guys get bored with me, and that’s why I’m single!
When men say this to me, it makes me feel like something is wrong with me — especially because 99% of the men who use corny lines like this will not make any moves to take me off the market. If his last three girlfriends looked like Jennifer Lopez, I may feel insecure, but if his last three girlfriends looked like Rebel Wilson, I might wonder if he’s a chubby chaser.
On the flip side, when a guy asks me what kind of guys I like, I might feel uncomfortable, especially if he doesn’t fit my normal boyfriend mold.
You’re so pretty, I’m surprised someone hasn’t taken you off the market!
(aka, "Why are you single: The Remix)This is one of those backhanded compliments that really has no response. As a Plus-Size Princess, I often wonder if the guys asking me out have dated big girls before (not that it matters, but I do wonder), and I’ve learned that the answer is rarely helpful.
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