My schedule was more flexible than his so it made sense that I should work around his schedule, right?

While in theory that makes sense, in reality, Craig started pulling away more and more.

So go out there and do your thing, be happy without him (whether him is in the picture or not), and let him be the icing on your perfect cake, rather than the flour, the eggs, the sugar and whatever other ingredients go into making a cake!

When I write dating tips and relationship advice for a new mode, I am writing to a female audience.

The chase creates the illusion of chemistry, not a real connection.

A man can sense when you’re making him chase you, and if you keep it up you’ll succeed in one thing: chasing him away.

guys after Craig and let me tell you, whenever I’ve been overly available I went through that same cycle.

They say insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.When you are so desperate for his approval and so accommodating to his schedule, then he doesn’t feel a need to step up or lock you down because…why should he?What it really comes down to is being a woman who values herself and is confident in who she is.And do not cancel any of these fun, meaningful activities just because he calls and wants to see you.When you have a fulfilling life of your own that exists completely separate from him, you will automatically be seen as having great value.When I eventually met up with Craig at the bar, the first thing he said after our friendly hellos and my apology for changing things around last minute was: “I like that you didn’t cancel on your friends.